June 18, 2024

Are You Ready to Define Success After 50?

Are You Ready to Define Success After 50?

Show Notes:

Summary:

In this episode of "Aging with Grace and Style," Valerie Hatcher talks about redefining success for women over 50. She challenges outdated societal norms and encourages listeners to create their own narratives of success based on personal values and goals. With inspiring stories and practical advice, Valerie guides women through the process of self-reflection, lifelong learning, and building supportive networks. She emphasizes the importance of a growth mindset and embracing failure as part of the journey.

Timestamps:

00:00 Women over 50 redefine success, rewrite societal rules.

06:55 Women redefining success in non-traditional ways.

08:56 Connect, support, encourage, embrace growth and failure.

11:53 Redefining success, shaping a new narrative for women.

Key Takeaways:

  • Set Personal Goals: Define what success means to you and align your goals with your values.
  • Lifelong Learning: Keep your mind engaged by learning new skills or hobbies.
  • Networking and Mentorship:Build connections with like-minded individuals for support and encouragement.
  • Adopt a Growth Mindset: View challenges as opportunities to grow and develop your abilities.
  • Embrace Failure: See setbacks as learning experiences that contribute to your personal growth.

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For too long, society has imposed narrow,



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outdated definitions of what it means to be a successful



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woman. But as we navigate the second



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half of our lives, it's time to change those limiting



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narratives and embrace a more empowering,



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fulfilling vision of success that aligns with our



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values, experiences, and aspirations.



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Today, we're going to talk about rewriting



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the rules of success.



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Hey, friend. Ever feel like those old fashioned



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ideas about aging just don't fit you? If you're ready



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to own this incredible chapter with grace, style, and a touch of



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sass, this is your space. Welcome to the aging with



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grace and style podcast. I'm Valerie Hatcher, and I'm here



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with empowering tips, inspiring stories, and a whole lot of



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fun just for us, women over 50. So grab



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your favorite beverage, turn up the volume, and let's get



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started.



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A few episodes back, episode 55,



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we talked about how to love your aging body with



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confidence. And just last week, on episode



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56, we discussed personal style.



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Today's episode is all about empowering you to



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rewrite the rules of success. As we



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age, our perspectives on what success means



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can shift, and it's essential to embrace those



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changes and define success on our own terms.



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So what does that even mean? I'm sure most of us have



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felt that Aging of, am I doing this right? Or



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maybe, is this really what success looks like for



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me? I know I certainly have, especially



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the am I doing this right part. We've all been



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fed this narrative of what successful woman should



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be, you know, the whole lean in,



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have it all, climb the corporate ladder thing. But guess



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what? That narrative is old news.



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It's time to to rip it up and write our



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own. As women over 50, we've lived



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through diverse experiences, we've overcome



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challenges, and developed a deeper understanding of



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what truly matters in life.



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Success for us might mean finding



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a sense of purpose, nurturing



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meaningful relationships, making a positive



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impact on our communities, or just



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simply living with authenticity and joy.



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Not long ago, I had a moment of reflection where



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I realized that some of the goals that I had set for



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myself in my younger years no longer resonated



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with who I am today. Well, that's



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because I've Grace. I've evolved,



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and my priorities have shifted. But it



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was a powerful moment of a, understanding



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that success is not a and size fits all



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concept. It's unique to each of us, and it



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evolves over time. Now I know I



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said it's time to rewrite the rules, but what



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are these rules of success that I'm talking about?



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Well, society has this funny way of telling women what



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they should value, a fulfilling career,



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a perfect family, a flawless appearance.



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Does that sound familiar? And while there's



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absolutely nothing wrong with any of these things because



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I value those things, but they can be pretty



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suffocating when they're the only options



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that are on the table. And here's the kicker.



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These rules aren't just outdated. They're often



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flat out limiting. They a us



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in, making us feel like we have to fit



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this cookie cutter mold to be considered successful.



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Again, this is not a and



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size fits all thing. So



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why bother rewriting these



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rules? Because when we



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redefine success on our own terms, magic



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happens. We start living lives that are



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authentic, fulfilling, and truly a



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with who we are. And guess what? When we



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rise, we lift others up too.



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So how do we actually rewrite these



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rules? Of, of course, rewriting



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the rules isn't easy. It takes courage.



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It takes resilience and a strong



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support system. It



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also starts with some serious self reflection.



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Let's explore how to redefine success and and to



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better reflect your personal values and goals.



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Now, as I've said, success doesn't have to



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be about climbing the corporate ladder



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or amassing wealth. It can be about



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achieving personal happiness, making a difference in



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your community, or pursuing,



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a passion project. I recently



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spoke with several women who have redefined success for



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themselves. One of them left her



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high powered corporate job to start a nonprofit



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supporting young entrepreneurs. Her measure



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of success is now based on the impact that



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she's had making rather than on her job



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title or her salary. I've also



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received messages from listeners who shared their



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journeys of redefining



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success. A listener, Martina, found success in



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her sixties by finally pursuing



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her lifelong dream of writing a book. And, you know, I



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know a lot of women our age who are writing books these days. I



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think that's absolutely great. At the end



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of the day, it's not about fitting into a mold,



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but about creating a life that feels



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fulfilling to you. Here



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are 3 practical steps to redefine



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success. And, you know, if you listen to me, y'all know I



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love to give steps. The first one is



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set personal goals. Take some time



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to reflect on what success



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means to you. Set goals that



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that are meaningful and aligned with your values.



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This could be anything from learning a new



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skill to dedicating more time with your



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family. Next would be to



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embrace the idea of lifelong learning,



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whether it's taking a class, pick picking up



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a a new hobby, or simply staying



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curious. Learning keeps our minds



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engaged, and it opens new opportunities for success.



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And then thirdly, networking and mentorship.



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Connect with others who who share your interest and



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your values. Building a supportive network and



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provide a and encouragement as you



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pursue your redefined version of



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success. Now



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let's talk quickly about some mindset



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shifts that can help on this journey.



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The first would be to embrace a growth mindset,



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which is the belief that you can develop



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your abilities through dedication and hard



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work. This mindset, it



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encourages you to see challenges as opportunities to



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grow rather than obstacles.



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And then next would be embracing failure.



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Understand that failure isn't



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the end a a part of the learning process. Now



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trust me. I know that the



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idea makes you say, no



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one wants to fail. But think of it like this.



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Each setback is an opportunity to



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to learn and grow. Let me repeat that



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for myself and those in the back of the room who didn't



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hear it the first time. Each setback is an



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opportunity to learn and grow.



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Many successful people, including Oprah Winfrey and JK



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Rowling, Grace numerous rejections and failures



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before ever achieving their goals. Embrace



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failure as a stepping stone rather than a



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setback. Success is



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a personally or and deeply, I'm sorry, a deeply



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personal concept. It's not about



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meeting societal expectations.



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Success is a deeply personal concept. It's



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not about meeting societal expectations,



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but about creating a life that feels true and fulfilling



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to you. Reflect on your



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own definition of success, set meaningful



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goals, and embrace the journey with a



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growth mindset. At the end of the day,



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empowering ourselves to rewrite the rules of success



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is about more than just personal fulfillment. It's



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about reclaiming our power as



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women over 50. We have spent



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decades navigating a world that often



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undervalues and underestimates us. But



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now it's time. It's our time to shine,



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to to use our voices, our experiences, and



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our collective wisdom to create an inclusive,



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empowering narrative of what it means to be a



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successful woman. So this week,



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I encourage you to take a step towards redefining



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success for yourself, Whether it's



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setting a new goal, learning something new,



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or reaching out to a mentor, take that step



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and and start rewriting your own rules.



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So there you have it. Today, we've challenged the



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status quo, questioning those old school rules,



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and started crafting a a new narrative



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for success, one that's uniquely



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ours. And, hey, I I



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wanna hear from you. Share your thoughts, your stories,



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your own definition of success on social at I



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am Valerie Hatcher, or leave me a voice message



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at pod.aging Aging grace and style.com.



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I love hearing your voices. Let's



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build a community of women who are boldly



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rewriting the rules and living life on their



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own terms. Until next time, keep



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rewriting those rules because you



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are the author of your own success story.



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Thanks for hanging out with me today. I hope you're feeling



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inspired and ready to own your awesomeness. I



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love sharing this space with you, and if you of today's



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