Aug. 6, 2024

Embracing Minimalism After 50: How to Let Go and Find Peace

Embracing Minimalism After 50: How to Let Go and Find Peace

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Summary:

In this episode of "Aging with Grace and Style," Valerie Hatcher dives into the transformative power of minimalism, especially for women over 50. She shares personal stories, expert insights, and practical tips to help listeners embrace a life of intention and joy by letting go of excess. Valerie discusses the emotional aspects of decluttering, including dealing with sentimental items, and offers strategies to make the process manageable and sustainable. From physical to digital spaces, she covers various areas where minimalism can reduce stress, improve mood, and create a more peaceful living environment. Valerie also highlights the long-term benefits of minimalism, such as enhanced mental and emotional well-being, and encourages listeners to start small and be patient with themselves on this journey.

Timestamps:

00:00 Minimalism: focus on what truly matters.

03:54 Two murals, one Jordan, one Mavs.

09:34 Declutter with care, keep meaningful items.

10:54 Struggling to manage emails and photos efficiently.

14:23 Embrace minimalism for greater freedom and joy.

Key Takeaways:

  • Start small and be patient with yourself when beginning the minimalism journey.
  • Remember, it's not about getting rid of everything; it's about keeping what adds value to your life.
  • Don't be afraid to let go of things that no longer serve you, even if they once did.
  • Create a memory box or take photos of sentimental items before letting them go for a more manageable approach to decluttering.
  • Avoid recluttering by being mindful of new purchases and consistently evaluating possessions and commitments.

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Transcript
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Picture this. You wake up in the morning. Your bedroom



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is serene and uncluttered. You walk into your kitchen



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and everything you need is within reach. And as



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you sit down with your cup of coffee, you feel an



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overwhelming sense of peace and clarity.



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Sounds like a dream. Right? Well, it's not just



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a fantasy. It's the power of minimalism.



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Today, we'll uncover how letting go of the excess



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in our lives can open up space for what truly



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matters, Whether it's reducing stress,



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improving your mood, or creating a more peaceful home



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environment, minimalism can be a game changer.



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So stay tuned as we journey through the art of letting



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go and embracing a life of intention and joy.



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Hey, friend. Ever feel like those old fashioned



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ideas about aging just don't fit you? If you're ready to



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own this incredible chapter with grace, style, and a touch of



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sass, this is your space. Welcome to the aging with



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grace and style podcast. I'm Valerie Hatcher, and I'm here



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with empowering tips, inspiring stories, and a whole lot of



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fun just for us, women over 50. So grab



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your favorite beverage, turn up the volume, and let's get



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started. Minimalism.



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It's a word that we hear a lot of these days, but what



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does it really mean for us women over 50? It's



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at its core, minimalism is about focusing on what



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truly matters by removing the excess in our lives.



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It's not about living with the bare minimum or sacrificing



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comfort. You know, life has a



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funny way of showing us what truly matters.



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Sometimes it takes a major event,



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a change in circumstances, or even just a



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quiet realization to nudge us toward



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a simpler way of living. Just the other week,



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I found myself in my son's room feeling



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completely overwhelmed, pretty much the same as I feel when



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I'm standing in my closet. A couple of things are at play



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here. 1, my son hasn't lived in our



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house full time for years. He got married last



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year, and now he owns his own house. So



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no plans to move back. A while



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ago, I had said that I was changing his room into



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a content creation room. Well, that plan



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has since changed because we have a granddaughter on the way,



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and, of course, she needs a room at our house. Right?



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Anyway, I'm standing there figuring out



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what to do with all the stuff. Now there's furniture



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as well as the random stuff that I've been putting in there



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lately. You know, the I'm a put this in



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here till I decide where I wanna put it or get rid



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of it. That stuff. But here's the



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biggie. Way back in the day, we



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had 2 murals painted on this wall. One



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was the Michael Jordan jump man image with the number



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23, and the other was the



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Dallas Mavericks logo. Honestly, I'm fine



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with getting rid of the Mavs logo, but I have some



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allegiance to the Jordan jump man. So if you



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didn't know, I am a major Jordan



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fan. Ironically, as I was standing in the room



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staring at the murals, a friend of mine called.



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Now we had our boys' rooms painted at the



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same time many years ago, and she



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too was in the process of changing things out. Her son



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is married, has a kid. So we decided that



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we would just take pictures and then paint over the



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walls and move on. Because why do we care



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more about these murals than our boys do?



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This is a prime example of needing to let



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go. No. I haven't made a dent in the room



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yet, but I'm about to. Letting go



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is never easy, especially when it comes to



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possessions, memories, and even people.



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It's an emotional journey that requires courage and



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resilience. We often attach



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sentimental value to our belongings, making it hard to



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part with them. And it's not just about the



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things. Sometimes, we need to let go of relationships



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or commitments that no longer serve us. Think



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of it this way. Minimalism isn't a



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destination. It's a journey. It's about



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constantly evaluating what you have



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and asking yourself, does this item bring me joy?



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Do I use it regularly? Does it serve a



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purpose in my life? If the answer is no,



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then it might be time to let it go. Minimalism



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isn't about deprivation. It's about creating



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space, space for your passions, your relationships



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and your personal growth. It's about designing a life



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that feels intentional, meaningful and



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fulfilling. We've talked about



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what it is and what it isn't. Now let's talk about the



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benefits of embracing minimalism after



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50. And trust me, there are a few. 1st and foremost,



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decluttering your physical space can have a profound



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impact on your mental and emotional well-being.



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A study published in the Journal of Environmental Psychology



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found that people who live in cluttered



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homes are more likely to experience stress,



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anxiety, and depression. Physical clutter can also take a



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toll on our bodies. Just think about it. Moving heavy



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boxes, bending over to pick up items, and navigating



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around piles of stuff can lead to aches,



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pains, and even injuries. But by simplifying



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your living space, you can reduce the physical strain on your



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body and create a more comfortable and inviting



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home. And let's not forget about the



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about mental minimalism. Letting go of worries,



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regrets, and grudges can be just as important



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as decluttering your physical space. Holding



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on to negative emotions can weigh you down and prevent you from



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fully enjoying the present moment. I found it helpful



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to think about letting go, not as a loss,



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but as making space for new experiences and opportunities.



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It, it really shifts the mindset from deprivation to



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possibility. And you know what? Once I



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started letting go of things, I felt this



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incredible sense of freedom. I have more time,



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more energy, and get this, less stress.



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I actually really started this whole process this past spring when I



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remodeled downstairs. I had to pack up the kitchen,



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the dining room, the living room, and then our master bath.



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I use this as an opportunity to declutter. It's amazing



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how it can snowball. I started questioning whether or not I



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really needed all those kitchen gadgets or the collection



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of water bottles or if I was actually going to



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read all those books that I've been hoarding.



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Now I know this process can feel overwhelming,



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especially when you think about decluttering your



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entire life, especially if you've accumulated



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decades of belongings. But remember, as I said



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before, minimalism is a journey. It's not a



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race. You wanna start small.



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Don't try to tackle your whole house at once.



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Pick one room, say like the bathroom or



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the kitchen, or maybe pick 1 drawer or 1



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shelf and begin there. Decide whether you want



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to keep, donate, recycle, or



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toss. Don't overwhelm yourself. Once you've



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decluttered that space, then move on to the next one.



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And then be patient with yourself. This is a process, and



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it's okay if it takes time. Trust me. It's



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taken me a while. Decluttering can be an



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emotional process, especially when it comes to sentimental



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items. Don't feel pressure to get rid of everything



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all at once. Take your time and remember, it's



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okay to keep things that hold special meaning for you.



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If you're struggling with letting go of sentimental items, then



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consider maybe taking a photo of them, like I'm gonna do the



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wall, before donating it. That way, you



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keep the memory without the clutter and then



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try having, a maybe



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box. If you're not sure about an item, then put it in the



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box and revisit it in a few months. If you haven't missed



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it, then it's probably safe to let it go.



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Well, I don't have a maybe box. I think I have a



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maybe room, my son's room, which probably isn't a good thing



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because it's more space to put stuff, but I'm working on



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it. Now let's look at some other areas that we can



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tackle. 1 is digital space.



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So organize your your emails into folders.



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Delete what you don't want. And the same goes to digital



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photos and files. I can honestly



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say that I'm horrible in this area. I



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get tons of emails and I haven't found a good



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way to get them deleted. While I love all



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things Apple, I wish their email was better. And



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I use a system called SaneBox, which helps



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me or it should it's supposed to help me keep my



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email sorted, and it separates out junk, and



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it does a good job overall. I just



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still don't manage it like I should. And now let's not even talk



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about photos. As you can imagine, I take a



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lot of photos and videos. And while I have an external hard



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drive to save them on, I like having them handy on my



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phone for those spur of the moment creative thoughts that I might



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have. Therefore, my photo numbers



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are high, like so high, I'm ashamed to even tell you the



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number, so I won't. See, I'm a work in progress.



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And then let's talk about social media. Unfollow



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accounts that don't bring you joy or value. I'm pretty good in that area.



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And then there are our social circles.



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Evaluate your relationships. You know, they say sometimes



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people are in your life for a reason and a season.



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So focus on meaningful connections. It's



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okay to step back from relationships that drain your



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energy. So I was having a a conversation about minimalism



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with someone in our community and she told me that since



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embracing minimalism that she feels so much



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more focused and at ease. She said her home is a



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sanctuary and that she's more intentional



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with her time and her energy. And you know what? Her



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experience highlights how minimalism can positively



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impact our lives. By cleaning out the clutter,



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we create space for what truly matters, our



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passions, our relationships, and our well-being.



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Now let's talk about how to sustain



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a minimalist lifestyle. It's one thing to



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declutter, but maintaining it is the



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key. So make it a habit. Incorporate,



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minimalism into your daily routine. Regularly



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assess your possessions and your commitments. And then for



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sentimental items, create a memory box or or take



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photos of items before letting them go. And then avoid



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recluttering. Be mindful of new things that you



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buy. Ask yourself if they add value to



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your life. I can honestly say that I am



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super proud of us. After decluttering as part of our



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remodel, we have done an excellent job at



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keeping everything in this place. Like clutter off the



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countertops, the drawers, the cabinets. It has



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become a habit. Now if you're looking for resources, then check out



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the book, the life changing magic



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of tidying up by Marie Kondo. It's a good



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one and it really has some some good takeaways that will help



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you. Well, that's all I have for today. As



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we wrap up, let's recap the key takeaways.



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1, start small and be patient with yourself.



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2, remember, it's not about getting rid of



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everything. It's about keeping what adds value



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to your life. And 3, don't be afraid to let go



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of things that no longer serve you, even if



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they want to did. I hope this episode has inspired you



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to start your own journey towards embracing minimalism



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after 50. Remember, it's not about



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perfection. It's about progress. Every small step



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that you take towards simplifying your life



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is a step towards greater freedom, joy, and peace of



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mind. Now remember, check out the show



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notes for, our downloadable



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checklist that I'm going to include. And then there's link to



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the resources that I mentioned in the episode. Until next time,



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live with grace and style.



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