July 2, 2024

Finding Joy in Aging: Embrace Life After 50

Finding Joy in Aging: Embrace Life After 50

Show Notes:

Summary:

In this episode of "Aging with Grace and Style," host Valerie Hatcher chats about finding joy in aging. She challenges the conventional, often negative perceptions about growing older by debunking common myths and presenting aging as a time of unexpected joy, growth, and newfound freedom. Valerie shares personal experiences, listener stories, and research-backed insights, illustrating that aging can bring increased emotional regulation, the freedom to prioritize, the joy of mentoring, increased self-confidence, deeper relationships, and the ability to pursue passions. Through her empowering and inspiring approach, Valerie encourages listeners to embrace aging with grace, style, and a whole lot of sass.

Timestamps:

00:00 Empowering podcast for women over 50. Enjoy!

04:41 Granny gang has fun, age is irrelevant.

09:33 Embracing meaningful connections, pursuing passions, aging benefits.

10:39 Embracing aging, finding joy in unexpected places.

14:13 Embrace joy in aging, and challenge limiting beliefs.

Key Takeaways:

  • Challenge common myths about aging by focusing on how happiness, strength, and confidence can increase after 50.
  • Prioritize activities and relationships that matter most to you, shedding societal "shoulds" to live more authentically.
  • Discover the joy and growth in mentoring others, as it can enrich both your life and theirs.
  • Embrace new passions and hobbies that you've always wanted to explore, using newfound freedom and time as you age.
  • Cultivate joy through gratitude and nurturing meaningful, intergenerational connections.

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Transcript
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Hey there. Welcome, if you're new, and welcome back



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if you're a regular. I'm Valerie, and I'm super excited that



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you're listening. Today, we're going to talk about



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something that has recently been on my mind. It's



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how to find joy in aging. Now I know



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what you might be thinking. Joy in



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aging? Isn't that an oxymoron? Well,



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I'm here to tell you that it absolutely is not.



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Hey, friend. Ever feel like those old fashioned



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ideas about aging just don't fit you? If you're ready to



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own this incredible chapter with grace, style, and a touch of



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sass, this is your space. Welcome to the aging with



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grace and style podcast. I'm Valerie Hatcher, and I'm here



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with empowering tips, inspiring stories, and a whole lot of



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fun just for us, women over 50. So grab



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your favorite beverage, turn up the volume, and let's get



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started.



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We've lived enough to know that life's too short for



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pretense. We're ready to shed societal



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self acceptance. I remember when I



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first turned 50. It was kinda hard for me.



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3040 were good, but I didn't embrace 50 as



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quickly. Don't get me wrong. I was definitely



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happy to be alive and to see that age because a lot of



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people didn't, but it was mixed emotion.



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I felt like I was supposed to to dread this next



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chapter, like society expected me to fade into the



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background. At times, I also felt



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like maybe I was supposed to dress a certain way,



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act a certain way, hide my flaws and my insecurities.



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It became exhausting, but then



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something just incredible happened. I had



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an moment. I realized that



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aging wasn't the end. It was the beginning.



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And I started to discover all the



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unexpected joys that came with it. So today,



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let's debunk some common myths about aging.



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We've all heard that aging means declining



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happiness, losing purpose, or that



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adventure some somehow ends. But recent



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studies show that happiness actually



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increases after 50. Isn't that something?



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Here are 5 myths. Myth number 1,



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aging means decline. This one's a classic.



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We're constantly bombarded with images of



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aging as a downward a. But here's the



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truth. While our bodies may change, we don't have



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to decline. In fact, many women find they



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get stronger, wiser, and more confident as they



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age. Myth number 2, older people



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can't have fun. Oh, please.



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Who says we can't have fun after 50? I've



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seen women in their seventies tearing up the dance



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floor, traveling the world, and starting new businesses.



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Age is just a number, and it shouldn't limit our ability to



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enjoy life. My close circle of friends



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affectionately called the granny guy gained by our



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kids. Now I've been and honorary granny,



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but this is all gonna change in November, but that's a whole



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other episode. Anyway, everyone is over 50.



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And when I tell you this group knows how to have fun, we



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laugh, we cut up in person and in our group



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text. We like to dance, play games, you name



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it. I remember my with birthday weekend.



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It was an absolute blast. Everyone needs a



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granny gang in their life, but this proves



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that age is no excuse for not



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letting loose and having fun. Myth number



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3, your best years are behind you. Now this



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myth is a real downer, isn't it? But it's simply not



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true. Every stage in life has something unique and



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beautiful to offer. Our fifties, sixties, and



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beyond can be some of the most fulfilling years



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if we embrace them with open arms. Think about it.



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We have more time for ourselves, more wisdom to



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share, and more freedom to pursue our passions.



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It's not too late to create the life that



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you've always dreamed of. Myth number 4,



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aging means losing your looks. Okay. Yes. Our



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skin might wrinkle and our hair might gray, But who



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cares? Beauty isn't about looking like a 20 year



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old. It's about confidence, self acceptance, and



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radiating that inner glow. And let's be real.



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Some of the most beautiful women that I know are



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in their fifties, sixties, and beyond. They've



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embraced their age with grace and elegance, and their beauty



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shines through even brighter than before.



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Myth number 5, older people are invisible.



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You know, I've recently observed an organization where



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older individuals are made to feel as if they aren't



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relevant or like they're invisible. I don't



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believe it's intentional, but it's definitely



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noticeable. And it's a perception that something that's seen



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by others. This 1 is plain



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wrong. Older women and men, for that sake,



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have so much to offer the world. Our



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wisdom, our experience, our perspective,



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we shouldn't fade into the background. We should be stepping



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into the spotlight and sharing our voices.



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It's time for a perspective shift.



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Instead of focusing on what we might lose with age,



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let's celebrate what we gain. Because believe



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it or not, there are some pretty



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amazing perks to getting older. A let me



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share a few that might help change your perspective.



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a is increased emotional regulation. I know.



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Yeah. That sounds deep, doesn't it? As we age, we actually



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get better at managing our emotions.



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Drama becomes less appealing, and we find more joy



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and peace and stability. Secondly is the



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freedom to prioritize. Remember all those



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shoulds that used to dictate your life? Well,



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now you have the wisdom to focus on what truly matters



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to you. If you want a day of doing nothing, that's fine.



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If you don't feel like going to an engage engagement,



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then that's fine too. It's up to you.



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Next is the joy of mentoring. There's



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a unique satisfaction in sharing your



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wisdom and watching others grow because of it.



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I have a mentee at work, and it's nice being



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able to help her navigate some of the challenges



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based on what I've already experienced.



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Next is increased self confidence. As we age,



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we tend to care less about what others think and



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more about what we truly value. This



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newfound freedom from societal expectations



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can lead to a boost in self confidence that we might



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not have experienced in our younger years. We're more



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comfortable in our own skin. We know who we



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are and what we want. And that, my friend, is a



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powerful thing. And then there's deeper



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relationships. So let's think quality over



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a. That should become our mantra, leading



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to more meaningful connections. I



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don't need a lot of friends. I just need strong,



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healthy friendships. And then lastly



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is freedom to pursue our passions.



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When we were younger, we might have been focused



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on building careers, raising families, or



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juggling multiple responsibilities. But as we



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age, we often have more time and freedom to



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pursue those passions that have been simmering on the back



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burner, whether it's writing a novel,



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starting a business, or just simply spending more



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time in nature a, now is



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the time to embrace those dreams and to live



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a life that truly lights you up.



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These are just a few of the unexpected benefits of aging.



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And remember, this isn't about denying



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the challenges that come with getting older. It's



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about acknowledging those challenges



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while also celebrating the unique gifts and opportunities



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that this stage of life has to offer.



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I, received a message from a listener named



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Sarah the other day about the



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unexpected joy that she's found in aging.



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When I turned 60, Sarah told me, I thought it



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was the beginning of the end, but then my daughter signed



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me up for a local community theater group.



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Initially reluctant, Sarah gave it a try. It



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was sure I was sure I'd be



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the oldest person there, but I found a diverse group of



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all ages. The director, a vibrant woman in



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her seventies, immediately put me at ease. As



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Sarah started attending rehearsals, she discovered



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unexpected joy. There's something



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liberating about being on stage. I found myself



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laughing more than I had in years. The



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experience began to influence other areas of her



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life. She said she started seeing the world differently.



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Her relationships changed too. Her grandkids



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she said her grandkids think that it's hilarious that grandma



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is in place. They come to every performance and they



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cheer the loudest, and she's made new



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friends of all ages through the theater group.



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They often go out after rehearsals and



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laugh and share stories. A reflected on



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how this changed her perspective on aging. She



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said she used to think joy was about big



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moments, but now she sees it in the



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small things, remembering a difficult line, the



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camaraderie of the cast, and using her imagination.



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I never expected to find so much joy at this stage in



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life, Sarah concluded. But here I am at



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60, having the time of my life.



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Aging isn't about slowing down. It's about discovering



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new parts of yourself. Sarah's



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story shows us that joy in aging



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often comes from unexpected sources.



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It's about being open to new



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experiences, connecting with others, and rediscovering



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parts of ourselves that we might



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have forgotten. Most importantly,



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it reminds us that it's never too late



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to find passions and new sources of joy.



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And Sarah's story, it isn't unique.



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There are countless women out there who



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are discovering new passions, deepening



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their relationships, and finding a newfound



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sense of purpose and fulfillment as they age. Are



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you inspired yet? Well, here are some practical



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tips to cultivate more joy. 1,



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embrace new experiences. Explore new hobbies.



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Try that dance class that you've been eyeing.



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2, practice gratitude. Focus



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on the blessings in your life, big and small.



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Start a joy journal and record daily moments



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of happiness. 3, nurture



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intergenerational relationships. Volunteer at a



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school or mentor a younger colleague.



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Remember, joy in aging isn't about



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clinging to youth. That's not what I'm trying to say. It's



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about embracing the unique gifts at



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each stage of life. I



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encourage you to challenge your own beliefs



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about aging. What limiting thoughts are



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you are holding you back from embracing



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this stage of life with joy and enthusiasm? You know,



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I'd love to hear your stories of joy in aging. Share them with



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me at pod.aging with grace and style.com.



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And maybe like Sarah, I'll include you on our next episode.



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Remember, aging is not a disease.



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It's a privilege, and it's not too



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late to start finding joy in it. Until



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next time, keep embracing the joy in every



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day.



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Thanks for hanging out with me today. I hope you're feeling



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inspired and ready to own your awesomeness. I love



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