May 11, 2024

Mothers and Daughters: The Bonds That Shape Us

Mothers and Daughters: The Bonds That Shape Us

Show Notes:

Summary:

In this special Mother's Day edition of "Aging with Grace & Style," Valerie reflects on the traits and characteristics she inherited from her mother. From her mom's sharp wit and distinct fashion sense to the formidable work ethic, Valerie dives into how these attributes have shaped her own life. She reminisces about her mom's humorous quips, her stylish flair, and the music that played a significant role in her upbringing. Reflecting on not just the inherited traits but also what she learned from her mom’s patience and nurturing spirit, Valerie invites listeners to consider the impact of their own mothers or mother figures. This heartfelt episode is mixed with humor and admiration, celebrating motherhood and its lifelong influence.

Timestamps:

00:01 Introduction to traits inherited from mothers

01:06 Exploration of humor inherited from mom

01:58 Discussing mom's influence on personal style

03:10 Reflection on mom's work ethic and musical talent

04:22 Learning life lessons in kindness and care

05:17 Conclusion, appreciating maternal influences and Mother’s Day wishes

Key Takeaways:

  • Reflect on the qualities and traits inherited from mothers or mother figures to understand how they have shaped personal identities and behaviors.
  • Appreciate and recognize specific attributes, such as humor, fashion sense, and work ethic, acknowledging the direct influence mothers have on these aspects of life.
  • Celebrate the subtle and overt lessons learned from mothers, highlighting both the ones naturally inherited and those that have required more effort to develop.
  • Embrace and acknowledge the generational differences in traits while understanding the foundational impact they have on personal growth and characteristics.
  • Use Mother’s Day as an opportunity to honor and appreciate the unique and impactful contributions of mothers, encouraging a deeper appreciation for the maternal influences that shape lives.

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Transcript
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Have you ever stopped to think about all the things that you



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inherited from your mom? The good, the maybe not



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so good, the hilarious. Well, this



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Mother's Day, I did just that, and I realized



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just how much of myself comes directly



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from my mom. Today, in this special Mother's



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Day edition, let's look at the traits we inherit from



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our mothers and the indelible mark they leave



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on our lives. So let's talk about



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wit. Most who know my mom will tell



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you of her wit. It it kind of



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sneaks up on you. Like, it's after she has



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said something, then you think,



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did did she just say that? Well, at 82



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years young, my mom can outwit anyone in the



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room, but she's earned the right to say



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exactly what's on her mind. And let me tell you,



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she does. She makes us laugh too.



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That razor sharp humor, it's something I I



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I cherish, and I see so much of her in



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the way humor plays a role in my life. Well, at



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least, I think I'm funny. Then,



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there's her fashion sense. My mom has always



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turned heads with her style from



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embellished suits to those iconic



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big church hats that she wears as a church



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musician and a pastor's wife. She's a fashion



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icon in her own right. And though I may



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not rock the big hats, her sense of style has



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rubbed off on me. So just the other day, I



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ordered the same sweatsuit that she got



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from Amazon. Now how many of you can say



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that you're trying to dress like your 82 year old mom?



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Speaking of inspiration, can we talk about work ethic?



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This is a trade that has fundamentally shaped



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me. Growing up, my mom was the rock of our



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family, especially when my dad was ill and couldn't



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work. She juggled 2 2 jobs,



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led a a traveling church choir,



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and somehow managed to keep us thriving.



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Her relentless drive is



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something that I've undoubtedly inherited, and



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when she tells me I'm doing too much, I have to remind her,



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I got it from her. And speaking of her



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roles, let's not forget her music. So



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my mom plays the piano and she does so by



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ear. So she can sit and hear something



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and then she can play it. I always



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wanted that, but I had to learn music,



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which was actually kinda boring. So let's just



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say I didn't inherit that gift,



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so my piano days were very short lived.



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But my love for music and



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my ear for harmony, that was her



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influence. And I can definitely tell



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when somebody is singing off key,



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which then brings me back to that off brand humor I talked



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about. It's sometimes unexpected,



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often hilarious, and most times



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just makes you just shake your head.



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But it's not just about the traits that we share.



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There are qualities that she possesses that I didn't quite



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inherit, like her incredible patience.



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But you know what? I don't recall her being this



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patient when I was growing up, And then there's



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her nurturing spirit that seems to extend to



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everyone in the family. So although



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she only had one child, she has raised



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many. But watching her, I've



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learned so much about kindness and care,



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even though maybe those traits don't



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come naturally for me. So



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whether it's style, humor, or a drive to



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get things done, I am definitely my mother's



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daughter, and I wouldn't be who I



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am without her. I



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invite all of you to think



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about the traits that you've inherited from your



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mother or your mother figures. What have they taught



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you and how have they shaped you?



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So to all the moms out there, happy mother's day,



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and remember, maybe the next time your mom



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does something totally weird or embarrassing,



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just appreciate that it might be where you get your best



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qualities. So here's to the women who



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made us who we are until next time,



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stay graceful, stay stylish, and keep



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celebrating every day with love and



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laughter.